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VALIDATION: SEEKING SASHA

Dionne Simpson-Amuah • Aug 14, 2019
This week I am joined by Sasha Johnson, mother of 4 and survivor of her own insecurities. She describes her painful childhood, that ultimately led her to constantly seek validation from those around her, including friends and even within her long-term relationship.

From experiencing domestic violence in the home, the murder of her dad from a violent attack in prison, a difficult relationship with her mother, being bullied at school, to being kicked out at 16 and having her first child at 18.

Sasha has had a long journey to the road of self love & appreciation.

Listen to her story now!

This weeks blog post has been guest written by Sasha Johnson, Mummy Blogger of Mums The Worde .


How do I look?


I’ve always been the type of person to make an effort before I walk out my door. Hair done. Makeup done. Clothes put together. When I first had my daughter (eldest child) my appearance did not change and neither did it change when I had my son. In fact when I had my son I feel like I made a little bit more of an effort because I was still young and my appearance meant a lot to me. My work colleagues and associates couldn’t understand how I done it.


By the time I reached baby no.3 my appearance went down. There was lack of effort to even comb my hair. And now with baby no.4 there seems to be no chance… my hair stays in the same hairstyle for a week without it being redone. Although it looks like I am comfortable with the way I have been carrying myself I can honestly say it does not align with who I am.

Sasha Johnson The Goddess Lounge Mums The Worde

Every mum knows what the school run looks like. Some of us fresh faced and raring to go and the others looking more tired like they literally dragged themselves out the house. Well, I joined the tired look… coming out the house like I threw myself out of bed. And it felt horrible. It made me feel low. I looked like nobody’s child. I didn’t feel like Sasha. Now, real talk, it’s okay to have days like this but my problem was that it became everyday. Until I became used to it and so did my kids. It got to the point that if my kids did see me with my hair done and stuff they would ask straight away ‘Where did you go today mum?’.


We all know as a mother the time we put aside for ourselves often gets dismissed by other things and that is what has been happening to me for a while. I remember a time where people would say to me ‘why do you have to be done up every day?’ and I would take it personal and thought I needed to care less about my appearance. Boy, do I miss those comments! I appreciate them so much because it reflected how good I actually looked. Right now I look in the mirror and say Sash, get it together mayn.


I watch my daughter get ready on a daily basis and see how much effort she puts into her appearance. It makes her feel good. I realised that she got that trait from me. She has only saw me be that way inclined. She shows me how much I am missing myself and I adore her.



How do you look today?


Sasha has been trying to empower women through her writing and videos on various platforms including Instagram, Facebook & Youtube. Follow her on Instagram, Twitter & Facebook.


www.mumstheworde.com


www.thegoddesslounge.com

Co-Parenting featuring Aaron (Raising Boys 2 Men)

by Dionne Simpson • 13 Jul, 2022
personally, as soon as I was faced with the notion that my relationship with my ex-husband would not survive, we discussed at length how we would conduct ourselves. We discussed finances, how we would deal with future relationships, mutually agreed on how we would parent and left no stone unturned. our daughters well-being was the priority and everything else came afterwards. yet, despite these discussions and writing things on paper, we still faced some of the same hurdles that millions of other co-parents do. sometimes it is nearly impossible to avoid friction at some point in the journey, particularly when everything is fresh and new to everyone. one question I always ask myself when it comes to co-parenting in the face of adversity is, 'does this benefit my daughter?' . if the answer is no, I just won't allow myself to behave or respond in a way that is detrimental to her or the co-parenting relationship. does that mean I back down? no. but what it means is that I approach all conversations and disagreements respectfully and as calmly as possible. a breakdown in healthy communication gets neither party anywhere, and if both are sincere and care enough, the Childs needs will always come first. realistically, Things may not always go smoothly when co-parenting. It helps to be clear about what your most important goals are for the future. Here are two that you might want to consider: To commit to supporting your children in having a free and uncomplicated relationship with the other parent. To keep whatever feelings you have about each other separate from your co-parenting relationship. These principles can serve as foundations for everything you do as co-parents.

Why Quitting My Corporate Role Was My Biggest Act Of Self Care

by Dionne Simpson • 06 Jul, 2022
this episode is probably the hardest one I have ever published, but quitting my corporate role was one of my biggest acts of self care. even as I type this, I am feeling quite sad and vulnerable. nothing has been more damaging to my self esteem than working in the insurance industry. some people may watch, read or listen to this episode and say that I am a fool for staying as long as I did, or that maybe I should have taken this company to an employment tribunal. however, back then terms such as 'microaggressions' or 'covert racism' were not that popular and how I would even build a case against them? how could I cite that their refusal to give me a blackberry to do my job efficiently was a sign of racism? had this been in more recent times, maybe things may have been different, but I am also a strong believer that everything happens for a reason. I had people close to me scorn me for leaving without finding something else, but 'who the cap fits, let them wear it!'. I was drained, exhausted, broken and I mentally could not go on. despite the negative responses I received, all that mattered to me was that my then husband was supportive of my decisions and he backed me all the way. I must credit him for his understanding at that time and I am grateful for the space he gave me to get back on my feet.
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The Orgasm Gap

by Dionne Simpson • 22 Jun, 2022
Episode 2, season 8! The Orgasm Gap

How Numerology Can Help You ft Lorraine Whyte

by Dionne Simpson-Amuah • 21 Apr, 2021
In this week's episode I am joined by returnee guest, Lorraine Whyte, to discuss the benefits and insight that numerology can give you, alongside identifying any trauma that may need to be worked upon. Discussion points: -Numerology and its definition -How numerology offers insight to your life's purpose and beyond -Can you change your life's plan? -The truth about manifesting -Dionne gets her own personal reading & forecast for 2021 -Trauma and karmic lessons -Numerology for business -Angel numbers

Soul Ties & Sexual Healing ft Tay Burke (Spiritual Alchemist)

by Dionne Simpson • 07 Apr, 2021
Quite simply, sex with the right person that aligns with you can be a very fulfilling experience. UNFORTUNATELY, THE MESSAGES THAT WE HAVE RECEIVED FROM SOCIETY, CULTURE AND RELIGION MAY HAVE ALTERED OUR VIEW OF SEX AND NOT ALWAYS IN THE RIGHT WAY.

Becoming Dad: The Untold Story

by Dionne Simpson • 02 Apr, 2021
We’ve discussed having a stepfather from a child’s perspective, absentee fathers (again from the child’s perspective) as well as the challenges of co-parenting. For this episode and blog, I wanted to talk to the men who had struggled for various reasons whilst having their children relatively young. As I was writing this blog, my uncle just happened to be at my parents’ house, so I invited him to share his thoughts on the topic. He had his first son at 21 and struggled to maintain a relationship with his eldest son until he was old enough to come and look for him.

Understanding & Defining Spirituality Ft Lorraine Whyte

by Dionne Simpson • 24 Mar, 2021
As i mention at the top of this episode, i have wanted to explore this topic for a while. i know the limits of my spiritual knowledge and therefore needed to have this discussion with someone who knows their stuff unapologetically. growing up in a christian family, attending church every sunday and going to a faith based school surely should have kept me within the borders of my religion. yet, from a young age i just knew that there were some things that didn't sit right or make sense to me.

A Dose Of Dionne - The Games People Play

by Dionne Simpson • 17 Mar, 2021
in this episode of a dose of dionne, i reflect on some of the experiences i have had with meeting new people. Having been 'out of the game' for a while, i don't think i genuinely had a good idea about the interactions people have in the dating world. i can honestly say that i have met some truly amazing people and each person has given me some food for thought or added to my growth as a person. I refer to a previous episode with victor granville called the search for real love which goes a bit deeper into some of the things i mention in this episode. Please have a listen if you need to!

How To Be A Conscious Parent

by Dionne Simpson • 10 Mar, 2021
In this weeks episode I am joined by Nicole Henry, child psychologist and therapist as we discuss how we can adopt better ways in parenting. you can follow or get into contact with nicole on instagram or via her website - www.thenicolehenry.com the episode is available to listen below:

A Dose Of Dionne - Behind Her Eyes Spoiler Alert!!!

by Dionne Simpson • 03 Mar, 2021
For me to dedicate a whole episode to a TV series, my regular listeners will know that I must be quite rattled. Lol! Behind her eyes was a brilliant series, a frustrating series and an ‘Oh My God’ type of psychological series. This is a spoiler alert so if you have not watched the series or if you intend on watching the series, please do not listen to this episode. I repeat, do not listen to this episode!! This is a VERY candid, off the cuff episode so please be warned there will be some profanity used because the series was that good!!!
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