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How We Deal With The Aftermath Of Adversity (2020)

Dionne Simpson • 31 December 2020

Oh what a year!

It’s been a long time since society has had to collectively go through the same struggle at the same time.

The 2020 pandemic has held no punches and businesses were not immune to the impact it had and is still having. Whilst most of the world has still returned to some sort of normality, the UK is still doing the ‘hokey pokey’ in terms of its lockdown strategies.

The trauma related to the pandemic has ranged from job losses, business closures, the loss of loved ones, the strain on medical staff and care workers and the loss of freedom. 

Loss seems to be the main theme of 2020, but what did you lose? How did you process that loss?

Whilst loss is indeed painful and life changing, loss is just as important as gain.  

It is in these times of loss that we can learn some of our greatest lessons, whether they apply to a major loss financially or of a loved one.

When you can clear away the fog of hopelessness and despair, you will soon discover the beautiful lesson to help you step forward.

Remember how the Phoenix rose from the ashes and how the beautiful lotus flower blooms through the muddy waters? You too will rise and bloom.

I had a few painful moments in 2020 and what they taught me was to have enhanced gratitude. I broke out in an awful skin condition which took ages to be diagnosed by several doctors. Nothing I tried worked and I was covered in pink to dark brown legions from my neck to my knees. I was certain I’d be scarred for life and in that moment it hit me.

I would give ANYTHING to have the skin I had before and I couldn’t believe how ungrateful I had been. We always find something to complain about with our bodies, yet don’t find the balance in honouring our temple.


Sometimes it takes for you to lose something before you can fully appreciate it.


I’d like you to make a list of all the things that personally impacted you in 2020. What were the pain points, what things did you learn and what things made you feel good.

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The podcast has seriously been neglected this year, but I am not going to beat myself up about it. Delivering episodes (particularly with our type of content) requires a certain amount of energy and I didn’t have it as much this year. It was also difficult to commit to interviews as the lockdown rules kept changing and guests were naturally a bit reluctant to meet up in person.


My plan for 2021 is to have some new hosts join the team so that we can expand the conversation. There are so many topics I’d love to cover but I can’t be the master of all things and actually, it would be nice to bring some fresh voices to the platform. Watch this space!!


Despite the lack of episodes our listenership is still up from last year by 2%! That may seem like a small increase but I was not expecting any growth at all.

I’d like to thank all of our loyal listeners and our growing fanbase in the U.S & Australia.


What am I grateful for?

People!! Honestly, family, friends and strangers have helped me get through this year with a continued positive attitude.

When I’ve had moments of feeling low or delivering things that I had no idea I needed, you all showed up for me this year.

I’ve met some amazing people this year, despite the restrictions and I hope to carry them forward into 2021 if they are meant to stay.


All the emails and DM’s from followers and listeners with words of encouragement & support have continued to fill my heart with love.


Jhene Aiko’s Chilombo album was literally my theme music for the year and she is noted for using sound healing instruments into her production. Pretty much all of her songs helped me in some way.


Listening to the teachings of Eckhart Tolle about living in the now have been consistently beneficial in reminding me that nothing is more important than acknowledging, honouring and living in the present moment.


Closing off for 2020, I’d like to wish you all a peaceful for 2021. 


May you have peace of mind, peace in your relationships, in your homes, your finances and your hearts.


We have no idea what 2021 may have in store for us, but what we can do is draw on the lessons we learnt in 2020.


Our biggest test is how we deal with the aftermath of adversity.


Take care of yourselves.


Dionne

Co-Parenting featuring Aaron (Raising Boys 2 Men)

by Dionne Simpson • 13 July 2022
personally, as soon as I was faced with the notion that my relationship with my ex-husband would not survive, we discussed at length how we would conduct ourselves. We discussed finances, how we would deal with future relationships, mutually agreed on how we would parent and left no stone unturned. our daughters well-being was the priority and everything else came afterwards. yet, despite these discussions and writing things on paper, we still faced some of the same hurdles that millions of other co-parents do. sometimes it is nearly impossible to avoid friction at some point in the journey, particularly when everything is fresh and new to everyone. one question I always ask myself when it comes to co-parenting in the face of adversity is, 'does this benefit my daughter?' . if the answer is no, I just won't allow myself to behave or respond in a way that is detrimental to her or the co-parenting relationship. does that mean I back down? no. but what it means is that I approach all conversations and disagreements respectfully and as calmly as possible. a breakdown in healthy communication gets neither party anywhere, and if both are sincere and care enough, the Childs needs will always come first. realistically, Things may not always go smoothly when co-parenting. It helps to be clear about what your most important goals are for the future. Here are two that you might want to consider: To commit to supporting your children in having a free and uncomplicated relationship with the other parent. To keep whatever feelings you have about each other separate from your co-parenting relationship. These principles can serve as foundations for everything you do as co-parents.

Why Quitting My Corporate Role Was My Biggest Act Of Self Care

by Dionne Simpson • 6 July 2022
this episode is probably the hardest one I have ever published, but quitting my corporate role was one of my biggest acts of self care. even as I type this, I am feeling quite sad and vulnerable. nothing has been more damaging to my self esteem than working in the insurance industry. some people may watch, read or listen to this episode and say that I am a fool for staying as long as I did, or that maybe I should have taken this company to an employment tribunal. however, back then terms such as 'microaggressions' or 'covert racism' were not that popular and how I would even build a case against them? how could I cite that their refusal to give me a blackberry to do my job efficiently was a sign of racism? had this been in more recent times, maybe things may have been different, but I am also a strong believer that everything happens for a reason. I had people close to me scorn me for leaving without finding something else, but 'who the cap fits, let them wear it!'. I was drained, exhausted, broken and I mentally could not go on. despite the negative responses I received, all that mattered to me was that my then husband was supportive of my decisions and he backed me all the way. I must credit him for his understanding at that time and I am grateful for the space he gave me to get back on my feet.
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The Orgasm Gap

by Dionne Simpson • 22 June 2022
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How Numerology Can Help You ft Lorraine Whyte

by Dionne Simpson-Amuah • 21 April 2021
In this week's episode I am joined by returnee guest, Lorraine Whyte, to discuss the benefits and insight that numerology can give you, alongside identifying any trauma that may need to be worked upon. Discussion points: -Numerology and its definition -How numerology offers insight to your life's purpose and beyond -Can you change your life's plan? -The truth about manifesting -Dionne gets her own personal reading & forecast for 2021 -Trauma and karmic lessons -Numerology for business -Angel numbers

Soul Ties & Sexual Healing ft Tay Burke (Spiritual Alchemist)

by Dionne Simpson • 7 April 2021
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Becoming Dad: The Untold Story

by Dionne Simpson • 2 April 2021
We’ve discussed having a stepfather from a child’s perspective, absentee fathers (again from the child’s perspective) as well as the challenges of co-parenting. For this episode and blog, I wanted to talk to the men who had struggled for various reasons whilst having their children relatively young. As I was writing this blog, my uncle just happened to be at my parents’ house, so I invited him to share his thoughts on the topic. He had his first son at 21 and struggled to maintain a relationship with his eldest son until he was old enough to come and look for him.

Understanding & Defining Spirituality Ft Lorraine Whyte

by Dionne Simpson • 24 March 2021
As i mention at the top of this episode, i have wanted to explore this topic for a while. i know the limits of my spiritual knowledge and therefore needed to have this discussion with someone who knows their stuff unapologetically. growing up in a christian family, attending church every sunday and going to a faith based school surely should have kept me within the borders of my religion. yet, from a young age i just knew that there were some things that didn't sit right or make sense to me.

A Dose Of Dionne - The Games People Play

by Dionne Simpson • 17 March 2021
in this episode of a dose of dionne, i reflect on some of the experiences i have had with meeting new people. Having been 'out of the game' for a while, i don't think i genuinely had a good idea about the interactions people have in the dating world. i can honestly say that i have met some truly amazing people and each person has given me some food for thought or added to my growth as a person. I refer to a previous episode with victor granville called the search for real love which goes a bit deeper into some of the things i mention in this episode. Please have a listen if you need to!

How To Be A Conscious Parent

by Dionne Simpson • 10 March 2021
In this weeks episode I am joined by Nicole Henry, child psychologist and therapist as we discuss how we can adopt better ways in parenting. you can follow or get into contact with nicole on instagram or via her website - www.thenicolehenry.com the episode is available to listen below:

A Dose Of Dionne - Behind Her Eyes Spoiler Alert!!!

by Dionne Simpson • 3 March 2021
For me to dedicate a whole episode to a TV series, my regular listeners will know that I must be quite rattled. Lol! Behind her eyes was a brilliant series, a frustrating series and an ‘Oh My God’ type of psychological series. This is a spoiler alert so if you have not watched the series or if you intend on watching the series, please do not listen to this episode. I repeat, do not listen to this episode!! This is a VERY candid, off the cuff episode so please be warned there will be some profanity used because the series was that good!!!
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