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HOW TO CHANGE YOUR MIND
Dionne Simpson-Amuah • 28 August 2019
Oftentimes we watch our friends and family continuously do stupid things. We look on in aghast because we cannot fathom why they would continue to do something that does not serve them well.
This could be in the context of a friend being in an abusive relationship. They cry, swear to leave, but always end up right back into the arms of the perpetrator.
Or maybe it’s the friend who stays when their wife continuously has affairs, promises to never do it again, but still does.
It could also be the friend who vows never to drink again because their excessive drinking has ended up with them getting into fights, losing their belongings and has affected their productivity a work.
Or could it be you?
Sometimes, we can spend so long wondering why other people do the things they do, but we are blinded by our own behaviours.
Whilst you’re shaking your head at your aunt who continues to eat rum cake whilst having type 2 diabetes, you’re failing to notice the damage that you’re doing to yourself whilst you go through 10-15 cigarettes a day.
It’s astonishing that we can’t see the shit in our own eyes, but know what’s best to use to wipe someone else’s. Funny that!
I for one, go through the motions of wanting to lose weight year after year. Sometimes I’m successful, but most of the time I am not. Why is that? I can tell you the science behind losing weight, the methods and how to work out, but struggle to execute that same advice on myself on a consistent basis.
Dr Van Der Kolk says in his book, ‘The Body Keeps Score’, that trauma actually causes physiological changes in the brain. This is why people continue to repeat the same problems and struggle to learn from experience.
Whilst understanding trauma is what Love Laid Bare is all about, I’d like to give you alternative solutions to ponder over.
In this weeks episode I am joined by Mind Coach & author Manley Connikie and Master PSYCH-K Facilitator, Cavan Cato.
We discuss why our brains function out of habit even when we try to make positive changes and what tools we can use to overcome them.
What is PSYCH-K?
PSYCH-K is a unique and direct way to identify and change subconscious beliefs that perpetuate old habits of thinking and behaving that you would like to change.
It is a simple process that helps you communicate with your subconscious mind, so you can change beliefs that limit your self-esteem, relationships, job performance, and even your physical health! Popularly characterised as a spiritual process with psychological benefits, the word psych is an abbreviation for psychology. And, is also a variant spelling of the word psyche. The dictionary definition of psyche is mind, soul, or spirit. The overall goal of PSYCH-K is to help you free your mind from beliefs that limit your recognition of yourself as a divine being having a human experience.
What does Psych-K stand for?
Psychological Kinesiology. Psych-K derives from the word psyche which relates to the mind, spirit or soul. Kinesiology (muscle testing) is used as an effective way to communicate with the subconscious mind.
Manley and Cavan have been successful in helping people deal with a wide range of issues from suicide, to wealth building and changing corrupt beliefs about ones self.
Listen to this weeks episode here! Or click on our ways to listen page.
Manleys book ‘One: Revolutionary Mind Coaching' is available for pre order on Amazon.
You can contact Manley Connike for Mind Coaching sessions at info@8one8.co.uk or follow him on Facebook & Instagram @manleyconnikie.
If you are interested in learning more about PSYCH K or having private sessions, please contact Cavan Cato at info@iamether.co.uk or follow him on Instagram @iam_aether.
As always, please drop your thoughts and comments below.
Take care and thank you for reading & listening!
Dionne xx
personally, as soon as I was faced with the notion that my relationship with my ex-husband would not survive, we discussed at length how we would conduct ourselves. We discussed finances, how we would deal with future relationships, mutually agreed on how we would parent and left no stone unturned. our daughters well-being was the priority and everything else came afterwards. yet, despite these discussions and writing things on paper, we still faced some of the same hurdles that millions of other co-parents do. sometimes it is nearly impossible to avoid friction at some point in the journey, particularly when everything is fresh and new to everyone. one question I always ask myself when it comes to co-parenting in the face of adversity is, 'does this benefit my daughter?' . if the answer is no, I just won't allow myself to behave or respond in a way that is detrimental to her or the co-parenting relationship. does that mean I back down? no. but what it means is that I approach all conversations and disagreements respectfully and as calmly as possible. a breakdown in healthy communication gets neither party anywhere, and if both are sincere and care enough, the Childs needs will always come first. realistically, Things may not always go smoothly when co-parenting. It helps to be clear about what your most important goals are for the future. Here are two that you might want to consider: To commit to supporting your children in having a free and uncomplicated relationship with the other parent. To keep whatever feelings you have about each other separate from your co-parenting relationship. These principles can serve as foundations for everything you do as co-parents.
this episode is probably the hardest one I have ever published, but quitting my corporate role was one of my biggest acts of self care. even as I type this, I am feeling quite sad and vulnerable. nothing has been more damaging to my self esteem than working in the insurance industry. some people may watch, read or listen to this episode and say that I am a fool for staying as long as I did, or that maybe I should have taken this company to an employment tribunal. however, back then terms such as 'microaggressions' or 'covert racism' were not that popular and how I would even build a case against them? how could I cite that their refusal to give me a blackberry to do my job efficiently was a sign of racism? had this been in more recent times, maybe things may have been different, but I am also a strong believer that everything happens for a reason. I had people close to me scorn me for leaving without finding something else, but 'who the cap fits, let them wear it!'. I was drained, exhausted, broken and I mentally could not go on. despite the negative responses I received, all that mattered to me was that my then husband was supportive of my decisions and he backed me all the way. I must credit him for his understanding at that time and I am grateful for the space he gave me to get back on my feet.
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